And then a few days later I talked to a friend on the phone. I have not seen her since August. We had a few minutes to catch up. But, all she really wanted to talk about was Covid, the election, the state of the US, and the churches being closed. I listened and empathized – because I agree, it is a mess right now.
My oldest daughter and I then talked about how exhausting communication can be at times. And, especially now, with everything that is going on. And I realized that what we choose to talk about can either lift us up or bring us down – right? I thought….we are in a mental jail!
Do you feel like you are in prison?
We have painted our minds into a corner. We have let the circumstances around us drive our thoughts which then drive our actions which then drive our speech.
Recently someone told me that watching the news stresses her out and makes her nervous…so, after she watches the morning news she listens to her favorite piano player play the rest of the day. What?! My comment? Turn off the darn news! Her answer? She wants to be informed. And I say to you….at the cost of what? Her mental health?
So, let me ask you? Are Covid, the election, or anything else for that matter, driving your thoughts? Are you so caught up in things you can NOT control that your life is on hold. I don't mean the breathing part of your life…I mean the living part of your life. Are you really living?
Yes, you can blame everything on Covid, can't you? But, should you….
It's a case of the ‘I Can't's':
You can't go out. You can't go to a baseball game or a football game or a concert. You can't go to a party. You can't go to school. You can't do anything.
And then when you can…it is a case of the ‘Should I really's?‘
Should I really go to school? How about the office? Should I really have lunch inside a restaurant? Should I really go shopping? Should I really travel and stay in a hotel?
Again, do you feel like you are in prison?
Plus, we just don't know sometimes, do we?
My husband is getting surgery in November. We are self quarantining 2 weeks prior. And then the question arose…do we need to require anyone who visits, after he is home, to quarantine before they come? And if no…why not?
And then we think about, what about getting Covid in the hospital – then what? And around and around and around we go. We feel like we are in prison. The Covid thought process prison.
We have a few choices don't we?
How about removing those glasses and putting on a pair of clean ones? Glasses that look at life as life. Life that is meant to be lived to the fullest.
A full life does NOT mean an old life or a previous life or life before Covid. A full life is the life that you have right NOW! You will never have this day again…there are no do overs….so live it to the fullest extent that you can.
There is that old saying ‘You are what you eat.' How about ‘You are what you think.' Garbage in. Garbage out. Stress in. Stress out. Irritation in. Irritation out. Thoughts in. Thoughts out.
If you hate masks but have to wear one…there are 2 choices. Don't go out or get used to it (without complaining about it). You will be surprised how liberating the decision to not get caught up in the noise can be.
I pray that you can get out of ‘thought process prison'. I pray that you will pay attention to the things that you can control (yes, you can vote). And leave the rest to God.
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Great mantras: You are what you think, and Stress in, stress out. Tuning out is the best way to cope sometimes. I have made twin quilts for my four grandchildren (5th arrived last week!) and make cards when I need a break from sewing. It keeps me sane.
Well put, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I make sure I get out everyday for a walk and breathe in breathe out that fresh air and just listen to nature. Sun is still shining, birds are still singing I find great peace in nature and welcome it like a huge hug. My husband and I have tried new recipes (some have been failures), treat our endeavors as mini episodes of Chopped. Most importantly to me I find a reason to laugh everyday . Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts
Hi there – thanks so much for the great comment. I love getting outside this time of year when the air is crisp and so full of promise. And yes, laughter for sure is the best medicine. Happy cooking!
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So happy to have you. Thanks for being a part of Positively Jane!